The joy of uncertainty
Summary
In this episode of The Gray Area, host Sean Illing speaks with author and journalist Maggie Jackson about her book ‘Uncertain: The Wisdom and Wonder of Being Unsure.’ Jackson argues that our cultural aversion to uncertainty is a misunderstanding, and that embracing the unknown is a crucial philosophical virtue and practical tool for thriving in a complex world.
Jackson explains the neuroscience behind uncertainty, describing how the stress response triggered by not knowing actually primes the brain for learning by broadening focus, enhancing working memory, and increasing receptivity to new information. She distinguishes uncertainty from ignorance, framing it as the moment we reach the limits of our current knowledge—a ‘green bud’ or ‘zone of proximal development’ where growth occurs. The conversation explores how fear of the unknown is a root cause of anxiety and depression, and how interventions that build tolerance for uncertainty can improve mental resilience.
The discussion also covers the social and political dimensions of certainty, including the ‘Berkeley cat-dog experiment’ which illustrates how authoritarian mindsets cling to initial answers despite changing evidence. Jackson and Illing consider the pitfalls of venerated ‘swaggering experts’ who apply old solutions to new problems, contrasting them with ‘adaptive experts’ who explore problems with an uncertain, inquisitive mindset. They touch on how precarity and privilege shape our relationship with uncertainty, and why cultivating adaptability is an essential skill for contemporary challenges.
Ultimately, Jackson makes a case for uncertainty as a form of ‘wisdom in motion’ and ‘honesty’ that allows us to be fully alive to life’s contradictions and possibilities. She shares personal practices, like her daily ocean swims, as examples of voluntarily engaging with the ‘good stress’ of the unknown. The episode concludes with the idea that clinging to preconceptions and fearing the unknown is a sure way to miss out on a well-lived life.
Recommendations
Books
- Uncertain: The Wisdom and Wonder of Being Unsure — Maggie Jackson’s book, which is the central subject of the episode. It argues for the value of embracing uncertainty as a virtue for learning, mental health, and navigating complexity.
Concepts
- Zone of Proximal Development — A concept from child development (Vygotsky) that Jackson applies to lifelong learning. It describes the space just beyond one’s current knowledge where, with some support, learning and growth occur. She calls it ‘the green bud on the tree’ where we thrive.
- Perspective Taking — Mentioned as a strategy for bolstering tolerance of uncertainty. By deliberately trying to understand another person’s viewpoint, you jolt yourself out of your own assumptions and into a state of ‘productive perplexity.‘
People
- Ludwig Wittgenstein — The Austrian philosopher is quoted in the epigraph of Jackson’s book. His quote, ‘I know seems to describe a state of affairs… One always forgets the expression, I thought I knew,’ is discussed as an encapsulation of the mutability of knowledge.
- John Dewey — Referenced as a pragmatist philosopher whose concept of the ‘quest for certainty’ Jackson discusses. She expresses deep admiration for his work and aligns herself with pragmatist thought.
- William James — Another pragmatist philosopher mentioned. Jackson references his idea of ‘the courage of a maybe,’ linking courage directly to the ability to tolerate uncertainty.
- Michel Dugas — A leading expert on anxiety cited by Jackson. His research found that teaching strategies to tolerate uncertainty reduced intractable anxiety and depression, which Jackson illustrates with an anecdote about a teacher with a bird phobia.
Topic Timeline
- 00:02:32 — Introducing Maggie Jackson and the book ‘Uncertain’ — Host Sean Illing introduces today’s guest, author Maggie Jackson, and her book ‘Uncertain: The Wisdom and Wonder of Being Unsure.’ Illing frames the core question: why is uncertainty so scary, and what could be gained by letting go of that fear? Jackson is described as making a case for uncertainty as a philosophical virtue backed by research showing it primes us for learning and is good for mental health.
- 00:03:48 — The neuroscience of uncertainty and learning — Jackson explains the biological and neurological basis of our response to uncertainty. While it triggers a stress response essential for survival, it also causes neural changes that broaden focus, bolster working memory, and increase receptivity to new data. She quotes neuroscientist Joseph Kable saying this is the moment ‘your brain is telling itself there’s something to be learned here.’ This ‘good stress’ creates a state of wakefulness and is the precursor to genuine learning, which requires surprise.
- 00:10:50 — Routine experts vs. adaptive experts — The discussion contrasts two types of expertise. ‘Routine experts’ rely on heuristics and old knowledge, which fails in novel, ambiguous situations. ‘Adaptive experts,’ however, spend more time exploring a problem, even more than novives, embracing uncertainty. Jackson argues that years of experience are weakly correlated with skill in fields like medicine, and that the ability to be uncertain—to slow down and avoid snap judgments—is key to solving complex, modern problems.
- 00:19:05 — When uncertainty becomes paralyzing vs. a path forward — Illing asks when uncertainty becomes paralyzing, noting that action eventually requires a decision. Jackson clarifies that uncertainty is not the end goal but a vehicle. Paralysis comes from the fear of uncertainty, not uncertainty itself. She defines intolerance of uncertainty as treating surprises as a threat, leading to denial and avoidance, while tolerance involves treating them as a challenge and using problem-solving strategies like reframing.
- 00:21:27 — Uncertainty as a transdiagnostic root of anxiety and depression — Jackson discusses emerging psychological theory that identifies fear of the unknown as a root cause or vulnerability factor for conditions like anxiety, depression, and PTSD. She cites research by Michel Dugas showing that teaching simple strategies to ‘try on’ uncertainty reduced intractable anxiety and depression. She shares an anecdote about Dugas helping a teacher with a bird phobia by giving her a bird guidebook, illustrating how understanding can transform fear into engagement.
- 00:30:52 — The political hazards of closed-mindedness — Illing and Jackson explore the social and political dangers of intolerance for uncertainty, referencing the ‘Berkeley cat-dog experiment.’ In this study, people shown a gradually changing image (cat to dog) refused to update their initial answer, demonstrating authoritarian thinking. Jackson connects this to modern polarization, where people rarely change their minds. She argues that distorting the world to fit our certainties is easier but ultimately harmful, while embracing the mutability of knowledge is the harder, necessary work.
- 00:39:29 — Why embracing uncertainty is urgent now — Illing asks if the current moment makes embracing ambiguity more urgent. Jackson believes it is, citing a long historical ‘quest for certainty’ that is now crumbling amidst rising precarity in work, climate, and politics. She argues that retreating into certainty curtails creativity and problem-solving precisely when we face lethal, complex problems. Leaning into uncertainty, though uncomfortable, is the way to move forward and adapt to this dynamic historical moment.
- 00:47:14 — Practical advice and concluding thoughts on living fully — In the final segment, Jackson offers practical advice: recognize the physical discomfort of uncertainty as your body signaling that the ‘status quo won’t do’ and that this state can propel you forward. She shares how writing the book changed her own life, making her more patient and open to unexpected paths. Illing concludes that clinging to preconceptions and fears is a way to miss out on a well-lived life. Jackson agrees, stating that contending with uncertainty is contending with life itself, in all its paradoxical beauty.
Episode Info
- Podcast: The Gray Area with Sean Illing
- Author: Vox
- Category: Society & Culture Philosophy News Politics News Commentary
- Published: 2024-01-22T10:30:00Z
- Duration: 00:48:40
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[00:00:57] I really believe that openness is a necessity, especially today,
[00:01:03] when the loudest, most obnoxious voices take up so much of the oxygen.
[00:01:09] But I wouldn’t say that tolerance of uncertainty comes naturally to me.
[00:01:14] Like most people, I like to be right, and I fear the unknown.
[00:01:19] The temptation to retreat into certainty is always there.
[00:01:23] I think most of us are like that.
[00:01:26] So why is that?
[00:01:27] Why is this the case?
[00:01:28] What is it about uncertainty that’s so scary?
[00:01:32] And what could be gained by letting go of that fear?
[00:01:38] I’m Sean Elling, and this is The Gray Area.
[00:01:54] Today’s guest is Maggie Jackson.
[00:01:57] She’s a writer and a journalist, and the author of a delightful new book called
[00:02:01] Uncertain, The Wisdom and Wonder of Being Unsure.
[00:02:05] Maggie makes a great case for uncertainty as a philosophical virtue.
[00:02:10] But she also dives into the best research we have,
[00:02:13] and explains why embracing ambiguity not only primes us for learning,
[00:02:18] it’s also good for our mental health.
[00:02:20] Which intuitively makes sense to me, but it’s not something I’ve really thought about.
[00:02:24] So I invited her onto the show,
[00:02:27] to talk about it.
[00:02:32] Maggie Jackson, welcome to The Gray Area.
[00:02:35] Thank you very much for having me.
[00:02:37] So, I don’t always read the epigraph quotes in books,
[00:02:41] but you have one from the Austrian philosopher Ludwig Wittgenstein,
[00:02:47] and it caught my eye.
[00:02:48] So I just want to read it to you and hear your thoughts on it after.
[00:02:51] Sure.
[00:02:52] He wrote,
[00:02:53] I know seems to describe a state of affairs,
[00:02:57] which guarantees what is known, guarantees it as a fact.
[00:03:01] One always forgets the expression, I thought I knew.
[00:03:05] Tell me about that.
[00:03:07] Well, I think that’s a great encapsulation or illustration
[00:03:10] of our individual and general attitudes toward knowledge,
[00:03:15] because we’re so proud of knowing, and I kind of picture knowledge as an island.
[00:03:21] And after that, the implication is that there’s the abyss.
[00:03:26] And his quote,
[00:03:27] Hinn said what’s really, really important about uncertainty,
[00:03:31] and that is its mutability.
[00:03:33] Knowledge has this dynamism that we are very loathe to admit to.
[00:03:39] I like to think of uncertainty as wisdom in motion,
[00:03:42] and not the paralysis that we think it is.
[00:03:45] How did you come to this topic?
[00:03:48] Why write a book on the virtues of uncertainty?
[00:03:52] Well, it was almost reluctantly, honestly.
[00:03:54] This is my third book.
[00:03:56] I’m going to be writing a book on the virtues of uncertainty.
[00:03:57] I’ve been writing about topics that are right under our noses,
[00:04:00] that are woven into our lives,
[00:04:03] and that we don’t understand or that we deeply misunderstand.
[00:04:06] The first book was about home, the nature of home in the digital age.
[00:04:09] The second book was about distraction, but particularly attention,
[00:04:12] which very few people could define,
[00:04:14] and its workings are newly being discovered.
[00:04:16] And then finally, I started writing a book about thinking in the digital age
[00:04:20] and what kinds of thinking that we need and what’s besieged
[00:04:23] and what are we gaining, et cetera.
[00:04:24] And the first chapter was about uncertainty,
[00:04:27] and not only did I discover uncertainty hadn’t really been studied
[00:04:34] or acknowledged or prized in so many different domains,
[00:04:38] but there’s now this new attention to it,
[00:04:41] lots and lots of new research findings, even in psychology.
[00:04:45] And at the very same time, I was really fascinated by this idea.
[00:04:49] And yet, I was also reluctant because, like many people,
[00:04:53] I had this idea that it was just something to eradicate,
[00:04:57] that uncertainty is just something to get beyond
[00:05:00] and shut it down as fast as possible.
[00:05:02] The book wanted to go there,
[00:05:04] and it was a hard sell for the author, so to speak.
[00:05:08] But it was great once I got going.
[00:05:10] Why do we fear not knowing what’s going to happen?
[00:05:14] What’s beneath that fear?
[00:05:17] It’s really simple.
[00:05:18] We fear and dislike uncertainty
[00:05:22] because as creatures, you know, for survival’s sakes,
[00:05:26] we need to know what’s going to happen.
[00:05:26] We need and want answers.
[00:05:28] We have to solve, you know, what to eat, what to do, et cetera.
[00:05:31] And so, we evolved to have a stress response
[00:05:36] when you meet something new or unexpected or murky or ambiguous,
[00:05:41] and your body and brain kind of spring into action
[00:05:45] so that when it’s your first day on the new job
[00:05:49] or you’re meeting your in-laws for the first time
[00:05:52] or all those sorts of lovely life situations,
[00:05:55] you know, your heart might be in a lot of pain,
[00:05:56] your heart might beat or your palms might sweat.
[00:05:59] But at the same time, and this is newly discovered,
[00:06:03] neuroscientists are beginning to unpack what happens in the brain.
[00:06:06] The uncertainty of the moment,
[00:06:08] the realization that you don’t know,
[00:06:11] that you’ve reached the limits of your knowledge,
[00:06:13] instigate a number of neural changes,
[00:06:16] like your focus broadens
[00:06:17] and your brain becomes more receptive to new data
[00:06:21] and your working memory is bolstered.
[00:06:24] So, this kind of rings a bell.
[00:06:25] You’re on your toes.
[00:06:26] And that’s why uncertainty at that moment is a kind of wakefulness.
[00:06:32] In fact, Joseph Cable of the University of Pennsylvania said to me,
[00:06:37] that’s the moment when your brain is telling itself
[00:06:40] there’s something to be learned here.
[00:06:43] So, by squandering that opportunity or retreating from that discomfort,
[00:06:49] we’re actually losing an opportunity to learn
[00:06:53] because your old knowledge is no longer sufficient.
[00:06:57] You need to be wakeful,
[00:06:59] but you’re also able to take up that invitation.
[00:07:03] So, what happens there?
[00:07:04] Stress hormones flood our brains
[00:07:05] and it’s exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time.
[00:07:10] But the consequence of that is that you’re super plugged in,
[00:07:13] super attuned to what’s happening.
[00:07:15] And is that what makes it, you know,
[00:07:18] fertile for learning and growth and that kind of thing?
[00:07:20] Right. No, exactly.
[00:07:21] Because sometimes we think of learning as being associational,
[00:07:25] the kind of pavimental,
[00:07:26] Pavlovian conditioning, et cetera.
[00:07:29] That’s true, but really the more updated idea of what learning is,
[00:07:35] that it entails surprise.
[00:07:36] I mean, no surprise, no learning,
[00:07:38] is what the neuroscientist Stanislaus Dehaene told me and writes about.
[00:07:42] So, when we are jolted from our daily routine,
[00:07:50] i.e., when we are recognizing the limits of our knowledge when we’re uncertain,
[00:07:55] that’s the time.
[00:07:56] When your body begins to, and your brain begin to, turn on, so to speak.
[00:08:02] What’s really also important to note about this
[00:08:06] is that what I’m describing seems like a kind of unconscious response
[00:08:11] and what can you do about it, et cetera.
[00:08:13] But actually, there is a conscious approach to uncertainty that we have.
[00:08:19] It’s really important not to retreat from the unsettling nature of uncertainty.
[00:08:23] We can also lean into uncertainty.
[00:08:25] Right.
[00:08:26] find the right word for this, and I can’t think of any other than leaning in, because it’s sort
[00:08:31] of a deliberate embrace of that stress and that wakefulness. But it’s really important to, again,
[00:08:38] recognize that this is good stress. And another illustration of how this operates is in the realm
[00:08:44] of curiosity. Many different studies related to the curious disposition show that one of the most
[00:08:51] important facets of our curiosity is the ability to tolerate the stress of the unknown. So in other
[00:08:59] words, to lean in to that uncomfortable feeling and to know that that’s your brain’s way of
[00:09:08] signaling to you that this is a great chance to think and to learn and to create. And people who
[00:09:15] are curious and who have that capacity to push through or to
[00:09:20] embrace the awkwardness of uncertainty also are more likely to express dissent,
[00:09:27] and they’re more engaged workers, etc., etc. I guess you can think of uncertainty as
[00:09:34] a precursor to good thinking, and I suppose it is. But to me, that makes it sound a little too much
[00:09:41] like a passive state as opposed to an active orientation to the world. Maybe what I’m really
[00:09:48] asking here is,
[00:09:50] whether you think of uncertainty as a verb or a disposition?
[00:09:55] Yes, I would say both. Uncertainty is definitively a disposition. We each have our personal comfort
[00:10:03] zone in relation to uncertainty. Our impression is that uncertainty is static and that is
[00:10:09] synonymous with paralysis, etc. To be uncertain also has that ring of passivity. But when you are
[00:10:17] taking up that invitation to learn that the good thing about uncertainty is that it’s a
[00:10:20] good stress of uncertainty offers you, there is a bit of a slowing down that occurs to action and to
[00:10:29] snap judgment and to racing to an answer. So in contrast to what we expect so often,
[00:10:37] uncertainty involves process. And that’s really, really important. And so, you know,
[00:10:43] we can take one example of experts. You know, today we really venerate the swaggering kind of expert.
[00:10:50] Who knows what to do and whose know-how is developed over, quote-unquote, so-called 10,000
[00:10:57] hours. That type of expertise needs updating. That type of expert’s knowledge basically tends to
[00:11:06] fall short in new, unpredictable, ambiguous problems, the kind that involve or demand
[00:11:13] uncertainty. So years of experience are actually only weakly correlated with skill and accuracy
[00:11:19] in medicine. And so, you know, we can take one example of an expert who knows what to do and whose
[00:11:20] know-how is developed over, quote-unquote, so-called 10,000 hours. And so, you know, we can
[00:11:20] take one example of an expert who knows what to do and whose know-how is developed over, quote-unquote,
[00:11:20] people who are typical so-called routine experts fall into something called carryover mode where
[00:11:29] they’re constantly applying their old knowledge, the old heuristic shortcut solutions into new
[00:11:35] situations. And that’s when they begin to fail. Adaptive experts actually explore a problem. They
[00:11:41] spend more time on a problem than a novice even. And so there’s this motion here, this forwardness,
[00:11:47] I think. I think of uncertainty as honesty because
[00:11:50] that’s involved with wakefulness. But I also think of it as dynamic, very, very dynamic.
[00:11:57] The idea that not knowing can be a strength does intuitively seem like a contradiction,
[00:12:06] in part because we’ve all been taught that knowledge is power, right? Do you think that
[00:12:11] cliche is wrong or just a tad misleading?
[00:12:14] Oh, I think that knowledge certainly is power. And knowledge is incredibly important. Knowledge
[00:12:20] is the foundation and the groundwork. But at the same time, I think that what we need to do to
[00:12:26] update our understanding of knowledge and to look into the frontiers of not knowing is basically to
[00:12:33] see that knowledge is mutable and dynamic, ever-shifting. I mean, that metaphor of a rock
[00:12:40] is my own, and that’s people who are intolerant of uncertainty think of knowledge as something
[00:12:47] that’s like a rock, that we are there. And so I think that’s a very, very important thing.
[00:12:50] to hold and defend. Whereas people who are more tolerant of uncertainty, who are likely to be
[00:12:55] curious, flexible thinkers, I like to say they treat knowledge as a tapestry whose mutability
[00:13:01] is its very strength.
[00:13:03] That’s an important point, right? Because I don’t think anyone, certainly you,
[00:13:06] would argue that ignorance is a virtue. But openness to revising our beliefs is,
[00:13:14] and that’s the distinction here.
[00:13:16] Right. And that centers right in what you’re driving about,
[00:13:20] where does uncertainty lie? And it’s really important to note that uncertainty
[00:13:26] is not ignorance. Ignorance is blank slate, the blank slate. I might not know anything about
[00:13:32] particle physics. I am ignorant. But when I’m uncertain, it could be this way, it could be that
[00:13:39] way. I’m not sure. I’m, again, reaching the limits of my knowledge. And that’s the chance where we
[00:13:45] can push beyond those boundaries. And in child development, there’s an expression
[00:13:50] called the limit of knowledge. And that’s the chance where we can push beyond those boundaries.
[00:13:50] The zone of proximal development, which is usually used as a shorthand for scaffolding,
[00:13:56] that’s the place where a child is pushing beyond their usual knowledge. They’re trying something
[00:14:02] complex and new, and the parent might scaffold a little bit and help only where necessary,
[00:14:07] but letting them do the work of expanding their limits. But that’s actually very much something
[00:14:12] that is human throughout our whole lives. It’s really a zone of proximal development is,
[00:14:19] one scientist told me,
[00:14:20] the green bud on the tree, that’s where we want to be. That’s where we thrive as thinkers and as
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[00:18:48] When does uncertainty become paralyzing? I mean, at some point, you have to decide and act,
[00:19:05] right? But maybe the mistake here is assuming that one needs to be certain in order to act.
[00:19:11] Yes. Well, you have to be relatively sure or the road does fork, you know, metaphorically and
[00:19:18] literally.
[00:19:18] And you, you know, usually have to take one. And you’re right. Forward motion involves choices,
[00:19:25] involves decisions, and involves solutions. And uncertainty is never the end goal. Uncertainty
[00:19:31] is a vehicle and an approach to life. But I also think another really important point is that most
[00:19:38] of the time, and again, I just kept coming up with this reiteration in my research again and again in
[00:19:45] different forms. But most of the time, it’s our fear of uncertainty. And I think that’s a very
[00:19:48] important point. And I think that’s a very important point. And I think that’s a very important point.
[00:19:49] That leads to paralysis. It’s not the uncertainty itself. If we approach uncertainty,
[00:19:55] knowing it’s a space of possibilities, or as another psychologist told me, an opportunity
[00:20:01] for movement, then we, you know, roll up our sleeves and be present in the moment and start
[00:20:08] investigating and exploring. But if we are afraid of uncertainty, and if you are intolerant of
[00:20:16] uncertainty, you are more likely to treat uncertainty as an opportunity for movement.
[00:20:18] Uncertainty as a threat. The very, very simplest definition of intolerance versus tolerance of
[00:20:24] uncertainty is treating being unsure or something surprising as a threat versus a challenge. And one
[00:20:32] of the classic signs that you fall on the extreme of the spectrum is that you think surprises, etc.,
[00:20:40] are unfair. And of course, we all do at certain points. I mean, we all do think that the traffic
[00:20:45] jam is unfair. But maybe,
[00:20:48] if you can think of it as a challenge or reframe it, which actually there were studies during the
[00:20:54] pandemic, people who were intolerant of uncertainty were more likely to use coping strategies based on
[00:21:01] denial, avoidance, and substance abuse. And of course, hey, we all did some of that too. But
[00:21:07] people who are tolerant of uncertainty were more likely to use problem-solving focus strategies,
[00:21:14] such as reframing the situation.
[00:21:17] You cite some research about
[00:21:18] fear of the unknown as a root cause of things like anxiety and depression.
[00:21:27] It certainly makes intuitive sense, but what do we know about that relationship?
[00:21:32] Well, this is a very new but rising theoretical understanding of mental challenges in the
[00:21:40] psychology world that basically more and more psychologists and clinicians are beginning to see
[00:21:47] fear of the unknown as a root cause of anxiety and depression. And I think that’s a very new
[00:21:48] phenomenon and very «angeous» to all our lives.
[00:21:49] We have never struggled with fear of the unknown as the transdiagnostic route, or at least vulnerability
[00:21:54] factor to many, many mental challenges, conditions such as everything from PTSD to anxiety. But by
[00:22:03] narrowing down treatments to just trying to help people bolster practicing not knowing, basically,
[00:22:13] boast their practice with tolerance of uncertainty, they’re actually beginning to find that that’s not
[00:22:14] what they wanted, but what they’re trying to do is to make them feel that they can would grow in the
[00:22:15] future, and that they finally can become those people in the future who will see them grow and
[00:22:15] ride on the advancing Zimmer Catechismе.
[00:22:15] bows not knowing, basically, boast their practice with tolerance of uncertainty. They’re actually
[00:22:17] beginning to find that there are certainly some ways that would have a successful goal, and they turn this way with a
[00:22:18] That might be a really important way to shift even intractable anxiety.
[00:22:24] So there’s been one gold standard peer-reviewed study by probably one of the world’s greatest experts on anxiety, Michel Dugas.
[00:22:33] And he found that people who were taught simple strategies to basically try on uncertainty, their intractable anxiety went down.
[00:22:43] They also worried just about as much as most people, which probably is still a lot these days.
[00:22:49] It also helped their depression.
[00:22:51] And then other studies with multiple different kind of populations so that these kind of very laser-sharp focused strategies about uncertainty actually boost at least self-reported resilience in patients with multiple sclerosis who are dealing with a lot of medical uncertainty.
[00:23:09] So it’s really, really exciting.
[00:23:11] And may I tell one little story?
[00:23:13] About this work?
[00:23:16] Michel Dugas told me a wonderful story where he said there was a teacher, one of his early patients, who was afraid of birds.
[00:23:23] And she was so afraid she’d run to her car, even from the classroom, when she saw one run, you know, fly by her window.
[00:23:29] And he did one thing, one thing only.
[00:23:32] He gave her a guidebook to birds.
[00:23:34] And then she actually ended up adopting a pet bird.
[00:23:37] Well, he said to me, that’s what I’m trying to do with uncertainty.
[00:23:40] So if we can take a closer look and understand.
[00:23:43] This state of mind is something that’s not something to fear, but it’s something that’s a source of wonder and delight, then we can move forward.
[00:23:53] So much of this is about that need to control things and all the anxiety that comes when you realize you can’t do that.
[00:24:00] And it really matters, doesn’t it?
[00:24:02] Because so much of life is about our attitude, the way we choose to interpret what’s happening to us, the way we choose to respond to it.
[00:24:09] You know, is it a problem or an opportunity?
[00:24:12] Is it pointless suffering?
[00:24:13] Or a chance for growth?
[00:24:16] And this not knowing we’re talking about, it’s the same thing.
[00:24:19] It can be a source of wonder or it can be a source of fear.
[00:24:23] And choosing is really our only superpower here, if we have one.
[00:24:28] Right, exactly.
[00:24:29] Choosing and practice, I would say.
[00:24:31] Because there are opportunities to be uncertain that are threaded throughout the day.
[00:24:36] They’re almost invisible because it’s so easy and innate in the human condition.
[00:24:43] In addition, to stick with what’s predictable, to stick with the familiar.
[00:24:48] In fact, one of the exercises that psychologists are going to be giving Columbus, Ohio high schoolers in order to boost their resilience,
[00:24:57] to help them bolster their tolerance of uncertainty, is to just answer their cell phones without caller ID.
[00:25:04] And I told a young relative of mine about that, and she said, oh, that would be terrifying.
[00:25:10] And this is a very, very simple.
[00:25:13] Practice.
[00:25:14] But another is to try a new dish in a restaurant.
[00:25:17] And I’m pretty adventuresome.
[00:25:18] I’ve lived all over the world.
[00:25:19] I, you know, jump in the cold ocean.
[00:25:21] You know, I really am fairly tolerant of uncertainty.
[00:25:26] And yet, when I think about it, you know, what do we like better than that same old clam spaghetti on a Friday night?
[00:25:31] And so that doesn’t mean you always have to be uncomfortable.
[00:25:35] But I think that at this point in time, in this era, when the uncertainty, that is what humans,
[00:25:43] cannot know, seems to be rising, at this moment, the worst possible response we can have is to retreat into certainty and familiarity and obviousness.
[00:25:56] That curtails our creativity and our ability to solve the precisely complex problems that are at our doorstep, the lethal problems at our doorstep.
[00:26:08] And so by doing precisely the wrong thing, the thing that we don’t want to do,
[00:26:13] the uncomfortable thing, by flipping our worldview to make uncertainty at least something to admire, to explore, to embrace,
[00:26:26] that’s the way we can move forward at this time in our world history.
[00:26:30] I think I have a more complicated relationship with uncertainty.
[00:26:35] Philosophically, I’m a big believer in the virtue of uncertainty.
[00:26:39] I mean, it’s built into the name of the show, The Gray Area.
[00:26:41] But, if I’m being honest, in my life, in my actual life,
[00:26:47] I think the fear of the unknown has kept me from living the life I truly want to live.
[00:26:53] And the way it often manifests is in this instinct to stick to the refuge of routine.
[00:27:01] Or this impulse to constantly imagine all the ways something might go badly.
[00:27:07] Which really, in the end, just becomes a justification for not trying anything.
[00:27:11] And it’s strange that, intellectually, I’m very comfortable with ambiguity.
[00:27:16] But in my actual life, I often behave as though I’m terrified of it.
[00:27:20] And this makes me feel a little schizophrenic.
[00:27:23] But maybe it shouldn’t. Maybe it’s common.
[00:27:26] Tell me this is common. Maggie, help me out here.
[00:27:29] Well, I would say, as a human, again, we dislike uncertainty for a real reason.
[00:27:36] We need and want answers.
[00:27:38] And this unsettling feeling you have is…
[00:27:41] Your innate way of signaling that you’re not in the routine anymore.
[00:27:46] And so it’s really important to understand, in some ways, how rare and wonderful uncertainty is.
[00:27:53] At the same time, we also need routine and familiarity.
[00:27:57] Most of life is what scientists call predictive processing.
[00:28:02] That is, we’re constantly making up assumptions and predicting.
[00:28:06] You just don’t think that your driveway is going to be in a different place when you get home.
[00:28:10] You can expect that you know how to tie your shoelaces when you get up in the morning.
[00:28:16] And so, therefore, we are enmeshed in this incredible world of our assumptions,
[00:28:22] to the extent to which scientists say we live in a consensual hallucination.
[00:28:27] It’s so human and so natural to stick to routine and to have that comfort.
[00:28:32] If we were just a living mess of openness to newness and having to learn everything again,
[00:28:38] we really would be.
[00:28:39] We really would be in trouble.
[00:28:41] And I don’t want to say it’s a middle ground at all.
[00:28:44] I actually think we should live more on the edge, far more than our culture permits us to do now.
[00:28:49] And so I don’t think you should feel…
[00:28:51] I don’t know.
[00:28:52] Maybe you should change out of that purple sweatshirt tomorrow, Sean.
[00:28:57] It’s more things like, you know, like my wife is a camper.
[00:29:00] You know, and she always wants to go camping.
[00:29:03] And I didn’t grow up camping.
[00:29:04] And when she brings it up, I’m like, yeah, well, but, you know, what if it rains?
[00:29:07] What if my air mattress runs out of air and I can’t sleep?
[00:29:11] Whatever.
[00:29:12] It’s just all this shit.
[00:29:13] You can constantly conjure up all the ways something could go sideways, no matter what it is.
[00:29:17] You can always imagine the million and one things around the bend that might, you know, derail whatever the plans are.
[00:29:23] And I guess ultimately it comes down to whether or not you’re comfortable just adapting to that and kind of rolling with it
[00:29:28] or whether you perceive all these things that might go wrong as catastrophic.
[00:29:33] Right.
[00:29:34] Well, there is work actually to help people.
[00:29:36] Deal with stress in a way.
[00:29:38] And this, you know, the good stress of uncertainty by teaching them that when people are able to understand that their body and brain are revving up for this new occasion, they’re actually more present in the moment.
[00:29:52] And so it isn’t that really what seeking routine, you know, isn’t.
[00:29:58] I mean, you know, to be anxious about the unknown is to inhibit or close down your present orientation.
[00:30:05] You know, when you are able to be in that moment and see the nuance beyond the campfire smoke or the bear who really was sighted two miles away and now is a mile away or all those sort of little factors, you can begin to see the more complex.
[00:30:23] And one thing that’s really interesting about interventions to help people bolster their tolerance of uncertainty is that it harnesses uncertainty’s power and strength.
[00:30:33] It’s not that it’s a job.
[00:30:34] Right.
[00:30:35] It’s not that it’s a jolly good thing to be uncertain all the time.
[00:30:37] It’s just that it lends itself to peeking into the complexity of the world, the complexity that’s already there.
[00:30:46] I’m glad you went there because there’s also a social and political dimension to all of this.
[00:30:52] You know, history is littered with examples of otherwise sane people doing terrible things in defense of absolute truths.
[00:31:01] And there’s actually an experiment you mentioned in the book.
[00:31:04] It’s the Berkeley cat-dog experiment.
[00:31:07] And it speaks to the political hazards of a closed mind.
[00:31:11] And for people who aren’t familiar, the basic gist is people were initially shown a picture that very clearly resembled a cat.
[00:31:19] But then they were gradually shown more drawings that bit by bit started to look more dog-like until finally it was just a picture of a dog.
[00:31:27] But interestingly, a huge number of people refused to let go of their initial answer almost all the way to the end.
[00:31:33] And it was a study in authoritarianism and the nature of the closed mind and how that manifests in a political context.
[00:31:41] And somehow I wasn’t aware of this study, but it is pretty instructive, isn’t it?
[00:31:46] Right, exactly.
[00:31:47] And as the psychologist who created the study said, the people who just wouldn’t admit that it was becoming a dog refused to leave the safe harbor of their definite ideas or something like that, which is, you know, exactly.
[00:32:01] Like, again, it underscores change.
[00:32:02] Right.
[00:32:03] And, you know, when we look around and we see 80% of Republicans and 80% of Democrats say the other side has few or no good ideas, and you see the U.S. rankings among other countries, you know, we rank the highest on polarization rates by degree and et cetera.
[00:32:21] You know, when you see 50% of people say they rarely have ever changed their minds, I mean, you’re seeing this play out in life today very much so.
[00:32:32] It’s just a fact of life that things will change.
[00:32:35] You know, the world won’t conform to your wishes.
[00:32:39] And so you end up going one of two ways.
[00:32:42] You either embrace the limits of your own knowledge or you distort the world in order to make it align with your story of it.
[00:32:50] And I think bad things happen when you do.
[00:32:52] Right.
[00:32:53] That’s why I think this is politically very important.
[00:32:56] Yes.
[00:32:57] And I think that it’s also backbreaking work, so to speak, to continually re-evaluate.
[00:33:01] To continually retreat into our certainties and close our eyes to the mutability of the world.
[00:33:08] I mean, I had a real epiphany when I was doing some writing about a Head Start program that teaches people from very challenged backgrounds, both parent and preschooler, to pause and reflect throughout the very chaotic days.
[00:33:24] And it seems like something that doesn’t have much to do with uncertainty, but they were basically inhabiting the question.
[00:33:30] And though it was a very difficult thing to snatch these moments of reflection within their lives.
[00:33:35] And in parallel to that, there’s also a lot of new movement to understand the strengths of people who live in lower economic situations that are often chaotic.
[00:33:45] Unpredictability is now seen as a real core issue in challenged situations.
[00:33:52] But what was amazing to me is I realized how much I grew up expecting that.
[00:33:59] Right.
[00:34:00] I was expecting that stability and predictability was just an entitlement, that this is the way we should live, that this is the skill set you need to adapt in order to thrive, etc., etc.
[00:34:15] So we basically have sort of airbrushed out of our psyches in many, many ways the ability to live in precarious situations.
[00:34:26] Yeah, I’m glad you said that.
[00:34:27] Because, you know, if you come from a place of precarity.
[00:34:29] Or if you exist in that space, comfort with uncertainty may not be a luxury you can afford.
[00:34:35] If you don’t feel safe, for good reasons, uncertainty takes on a different hue.
[00:34:40] And that’s something that’s definitely worth acknowledging.
[00:34:43] Yes.
[00:34:44] And there are tremendous costs living in situations where you’re experiencing higher degrees of precarity.
[00:34:50] But at the same time, I think it’s really important for many, many people today to understand, again,
[00:34:58] that adaptability is a skill that maybe we all have to cultivate.
[00:35:04] We don’t want anyone to live in poverty or to be abandoned in an international institution, an orphanage.
[00:35:12] But at the same time, we do all of ourselves an injustice by not understanding the full spectrum of human capability to adapt.
[00:35:24] After one last short break,
[00:35:26] Nikki tells us how embracing uncertainty has made her hopeful for the future.
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[00:39:29] Is there something in particular about this moment that makes this all seem all the more urgent to you?
[00:39:34] I mean, things are always in flux.
[00:39:35] Things are always changing.
[00:39:37] Does now seem like an especially dynamic moment that really summons us to lean into the ambiguity?
[00:39:44] I think it is.
[00:39:45] I mean, you know, for hundreds of years,
[00:39:47] for hundreds of years, particularly in the West, we’ve been pursuing what Dewey called the quest
[00:39:53] for certainty. I see this massive, long crumbling in humanity’s, or at least many societies’ ability
[00:40:02] to assume certainty where there was none. And so you can also see many, you know, different studies
[00:40:09] showing rise in precarity of work hours or rise in, you know, weather patterns, etc. It does seem
[00:40:14] as though things might be in more flux. And so that is the time when I think we need a sea change
[00:40:23] in our attitudes toward not knowing in order to face this moment and not hide in our devices or
[00:40:30] hide in our certainties. Most people would say that confidence is a good thing. And confidence
[00:40:37] seems inextricably bound up with knowing that you know. What are we missing there?
[00:40:44] Exactly.
[00:40:44] Is that just the wrong way to think about confidence?
[00:40:47] Well, there are different types of confidence. There are different degrees of confidence.
[00:40:51] So you can be confident while being open-minded to other suggestions. Linus Pauling in The Great
[00:40:58] Race to Discover the Structure of DNA came up with a solution but didn’t listen to his colleagues,
[00:41:05] hardly did any homework, etc., etc. Now that’s hubris. That’s not confidence. Confidence is,
[00:41:11] I think, being open-eyed and open-minded.
[00:41:14] And flexible. And people have come up to me when I’ve been doing talks about this book saying,
[00:41:21] for instance, one woman who headed a state budget for Rhode Island came up to me afterwards and
[00:41:26] said, ah, I always used to end meetings saying, is there anything more we should know? And she
[00:41:34] felt somehow sheepish about that, as if it was a weak thing. And now she really feels as though
[00:41:39] that was actually wise. So you can be confident and be open.
[00:41:44] I think I’m going to jump off that cliff. But maybe you might want to be stopped by somebody.
[00:41:52] Don’t do it, Maggie.
[00:41:52] It’s also uncertainty very, very much is about knowing the limits of your knowledge. So even,
[00:42:00] for instance, something as simple as a Google search is associated with people thinking they
[00:42:05] know more than they do, even if they actually didn’t find what they were looking for. And
[00:42:09] that’s really important, really important. Because if you don’t know the limits of your
[00:42:14] knowledge, you’re not going to be able to do anything. And so I think it’s important to know
[00:42:14] you can’t push beyond it. You can’t know what you don’t know, which, of course, is the starting
[00:42:20] point of all learning. Can we learn to be more tolerant of uncertainty? Because if we can’t
[00:42:27] teach this, if we can’t absorb it, then what good is all this knowledge? Exactly. No, of course we
[00:42:34] can. And all great understandings of wisdom and knowing and learning throughout the ages have been
[00:42:42] infused with this knowledge. And so I think it’s important to be more tolerant of uncertainty.
[00:42:44] And it’s really important also to mention that this spectrum, this disposition of tolerance or
[00:42:53] intolerance toward uncertainty is situational as well. We might live on the spectrum. We might be
[00:42:59] able to change or bolster our tolerance for uncertainty. But also on any given day, you will
[00:43:06] maybe lean one way or the other. So when you’re tired or you have information overload or studies
[00:43:13] show when you fall asleep, you’re not going to be able to sleep. And so I think it’s important to
[00:43:14] feel compelled to give an answer, which basically describes daily living today. You’re more likely
[00:43:22] to tend to be seeking an answer and also seeking what’s called need for closure, which is really
[00:43:29] important. You need and want to close down on an answer when you feel stressed and beseeched. And I
[00:43:37] think we certainly can in little possible ways, you know, just adopting some of those daily
[00:43:43] practices, like trying to be more tolerant of uncertainty. And so I think it’s important to
[00:43:44] something new or perhaps one strategy that’s gaining attention when it comes to understanding
[00:43:51] the other, people who oppose your different views, is perspective taking. And taking the perspective
[00:43:56] of another is just jolting yourself from your assumptions about the fact that you do know
[00:44:03] someone’s perspective. You’re reminding yourself. You’re jolting yourself into what Socrates called
[00:44:08] perplexity, productive perplexity. It definitely seems like certain people are wired in such a
[00:44:14] way that they don’t know what they’re doing. And so I think it’s important to have that kind of
[00:44:14] way that uncertainty is just untenable. You know, we just did an episode with Robert Sapolsky about
[00:44:20] the illusion of free will. And so that’s rattling around in the back of my head as we’re talking
[00:44:27] about this. Yes, I think so. And yet I also think on the hopeful note, we maybe need to make more
[00:44:34] visible the way in which our entire cultures are predicated on certain types of language. You know,
[00:44:41] for instance, hedge words, words like maybe and sometimes.
[00:44:44] They’re seen as weak. Linguistically, give people two different signals. One, that you’re receptive
[00:44:50] to another’s point of view. And two, that there’s more to know out there. So just by throwing in
[00:44:57] the word maybe, studies show that you don’t look weak as you might assume. What you’re just saying
[00:45:02] about the power of words like maybe, I’m really skeptical of that. And it goes back to the
[00:45:07] political problems here. You actually talk about this in the book. You know what people don’t like
[00:45:12] in leaders? Leaders who are intellectually honest.
[00:45:14] And say things like, I don’t know. Or I’m not sure. If you want to not get elected, just be
[00:45:19] intellectually honest in that way and humble in that way and see what happens. We don’t like that.
[00:45:25] We don’t like it in ourselves. We certainly don’t like it in leaders. And I don’t know what to do
[00:45:30] about that, but it would be better if it were otherwise. Absolutely. But you know, on the other
[00:45:36] hand, medicine is sort of, you would think the final frontier for unsureness. And yet there are
[00:45:42] beginning programs like, you know, like, you know, like, you know, like, you know, like, you know,
[00:45:44] leaders to teach doctors to say, I don’t know. It’s actually seen as more positive among patients
[00:45:52] than expected. In Maine, there was a program to teach young residents to say, gee, I need to look
[00:46:00] that up. Or, wow, I don’t know. Which is, you know, of course, really almost impossible to utter.
[00:46:05] And yet the word that kept coming up was that it gave them courage. The courage to think and rethink,
[00:46:12] to consider based on what was
[00:46:14] actually happening rather than their assumptions. That’s courage. You would never think of courage
[00:46:18] and uncertainty being, you know, associated or close related, but they are. In fact, William
[00:46:24] James talked about the courage of a maybe. So I think, yes, all right, maybe politics is,
[00:46:30] needs some dire help. But medicine in business and in AI, there’s a new movement to create robots
[00:46:38] and models that are unsure in their aims, which is a sea change, a complete,
[00:46:44] reimagining of the field led by Stuart Russell. They’re creating robots that are more teachable,
[00:46:49] honest, transparent. And here we are, again, looking at a sort of element in our culture,
[00:46:55] you know, technology or politics or language that influences us. But if you can create
[00:47:02] a technology that holds up a mirror to our better selves, you might have a good influence on us from
[00:47:09] our technologies. And so I see the seeds of change. I actually came,
[00:47:14] away from writing this book, hopeful. You’ve now referenced Dewey and William
[00:47:19] James. Are you a fellow pragmatist? Are you on team pragmatism? Because we are on this show.
[00:47:26] I am totally. And I just never studied philosophy, which I dearly regret. I was too
[00:47:31] daunted. And so I’ve been an amateur reader. And I just, I try to read all sorts of
[00:47:41] types of philosophy that, that,
[00:47:44] help me understand what I might be studying at the time or researching. But I went back and back
[00:47:50] and back to Dewey and I dearly love him. And I feel like going to Vermont and visiting his grave
[00:47:55] or whatever there is. And I would feel honored to consider myself a pragmatist because on one hand,
[00:48:02] I spend so much of my life out on journeys of the mind, you know, asking what are the questions and
[00:48:07] walking around and around to try to get a 360 degree look at some of the things I’m looking at
[00:48:12] and to say something.
[00:48:14] I read something about your morning swims. What’s the story there?
[00:48:22] Well, during the pandemic, I had been New York, Rhode Island, New York, Rhode Island,
[00:48:26] and then we switched. And so the grand experiment was to live in the country.
[00:48:30] The pools closed. I’m a swimmer. It’s really important for my writing and all that sort of
[00:48:34] thing. And then I got hooked, like many people, it’s kind of a global phenomenon on ocean swimming.
[00:48:41] So four seasons, rain or shine,
[00:48:44] so I do it with a wetsuit. But I actually began to realize I’m really fascinated by why is this
[00:48:51] so joyful? Oh, there’s the exercise. There’s a social camaraderie. You’re kind of swimming with
[00:48:55] your subway car, I call it, because these bunch of strangers get together. And then I began to feel
[00:49:00] or understand that really it was a daily dose of uncertainty, that you’re living at the edge
[00:49:07] because you might see the app or you might know that particular beach, but you really don’t know
[00:49:13] what’s going to happen. And so I started to think about it. And I started to think about it. And I
[00:49:14] began to realize that maybe the joy in it and the edginess and the discomfort there was really
[00:49:24] just what I was writing about. So when someone is confronted with that feeling of fear
[00:49:30] that comes with not knowing or that anxiety that comes with not knowing,
[00:49:35] how should they sit with that? I mean, what is your practical advice?
[00:49:39] Well, I think first telling oneself that this is,
[00:49:44] you know, your body and brain’s way of signaling that there’s a moment when the status quo won’t do,
[00:49:51] that this might be uncomfortable, but that is not, you know, a situation or a state of mind that is
[00:49:59] against moving forward, but actually propelling you forward. Because it is discomfort to admit
[00:50:07] to or to see complexity, nuance, other people’s perspectives. I mean, you know, I don’t like it
[00:50:14] when the editor says this needs to be improved, et cetera, et cetera. So I think that if we truly
[00:50:20] understand, I mean, it’s just changed my life to write this book and to at least loosen a little
[00:50:27] bit of the fear that I might carry into really new situations, from giving a speech to being
[00:50:33] in the presence of someone who’s very upset, a friend or a daughter who’s really upset.
[00:50:39] And I used to want to, oh, just offer a solution and give that silver lining,
[00:50:44] and, you know, get that moment over with and, you know, get them on the road to happiness.
[00:50:49] And now I feel much more patient. And with that comes the ability to follow a path down
[00:50:56] an unexpected path or even take a detour. At one point, I said to a friend, I’m writing this book
[00:51:03] in a spiraling fashion, going around and around like those kind of labyrinthian walking gardens
[00:51:10] or, you know, Zen Buddhist. And of course, she looked at me with,
[00:51:14] solid horror, but I think she actually understood what I meant, too.
[00:51:17] Yeah. You write in the book that embracing uncertainty is really
[00:51:21] how we become alive to the possibilities of life. And that really is the bottom line here for me.
[00:51:29] Clinging to our preconceptions and our fears of the unknown is probably the sheerest way to miss
[00:51:36] out on a well-lived life. And so I guess that’s the note I want to end on. Is there anything else
[00:51:42] you’d like to add, Maggie?
[00:51:44] No, I think you said it perfectly. I think that this is all about being fully alive,
[00:51:51] both to the disquieting and the beautifully joyous, positive elements of life. Because
[00:51:57] if we can’t contend with uncertainty, then we can’t contend with life because life will always
[00:52:03] be contradictory, paradoxical, mutable, dynamic, everything we’ve been talking about.
[00:52:10] Once again, the book is called Uncertain. The Wisdom and
[00:52:14] Wonder of Being Unsure. Maggie Jackson, this was a pleasure. Thanks for the chat.
[00:52:19] Thank you. It was an honor talking with you.
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